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FA’IDODIN AUREN BAZAWARA KO WACCE TA GIRMEKA A SHEKARU |
(Ta fuskar addini, zamantakewa, da hankali)
1. Fa’ida ta Addini da Koyi da Sunnah
Auren mace da ta girmeka a shekaru ba abin kunya ba ne a Musulunci, kuma yana da misali a rayuwar Manzon Allah ﷺ.
- Annabi ﷺ ya auri Sayyida Khadijah (RA) wacce ta girmeshi a shekaru.
- Don haka, namiji da ya auri bazawara ko babbar mace yana cikin halacci da falala, ba wai ya aikata wani abu na dabam ba.
Amma a lura: ba wajibi ba ne a dauki wannan a matsayin sunnah ga kowa; sunnah ita ce aure gaba ɗaya, ba shekarun mace kadai ba.
2. Kwarewar Zamantakewar Aure (Marital Intelligence)
Mace da ta girma ko bazawara:
- ta riga ta fahimci menene aure a aikace, ba a mafarki ba
- ta san cewa:
- aure ba soyayya kadai ba ce
- akwai hakuri, jurewa, da sassauci
- ta fi fahimtar halayen namiji, musamman:
- abin da yake faranta masa rai
- abin da ke tayar masa da hankali
Wannan yana rage:
- yawan rigingimu
- rikicin “expectation vs reality”
- saurin gajiya da aure
3. Hakuri da Fahimtar Rayuwa
Bazawara ko babbar mace:
- ta san cewa rayuwa tana da:
- rana mai dadi
- rana mai wahala
- ba ta daukar aure a matsayin wasa ko gwaji
Saboda haka:
- tana da hakurin takewa
- tana iya jure matsin tattalin arziki
- bata yawaita kwatanta mijinta da wasu ba
Wannan yana taimakawa:
- zaman lafiya
- kwanciyar hankali a gida
4. Iya Gudanar da Gida (Domestic Competence)
A zahiri:
- yawanci bazawara ta riga ta:
- kula da gida
- girki
- tsafta
- tarbiyyar yara
- tana fahimtar tsarin gida da nauyin aure
Wannan ba yana nufin budurwa ba za ta iya ba;
amma bazawara tana da gogewa (experience), wacce:
- take rage kuskure
- take sa abubuwa su tafi daidai da wuri
5. Kwarewa a Sadarwa da Zance
Mace mai shekaru:
- ta fi iya:
- tattaunawa cikin natsuwa
- rarrashi
- fahimtar yanayin miji
- ba ta yawan yin magana cikin fushi ko tsokana
A ilimin zamantakewa, ana kiran wannan:
Emotional maturity
Wannan na rage:
- zafin baki
- rikici daga kan magana
- ɓata zuciya ba tare da bukata ba
6. Kiyaye Dukiya da Tsarin Kashe Kudi
Yawanci bazawara:
- ta san darajar kudi
- ta san wahalar nema
- ba ta yawan almubazzaranci
Wannan yana taimakawa:
- gina tattalin arzikin gida
- kaucewa bashi da takaddama
MUHIMMIN GARGADI (DAIDAITAWA)
✔️ Wadannan fa’idodi ba doka ba ce ga kowace bazawara ko babbar mace
✔️ Kamar yadda:
- ba kowace bazawara ce mai hakuri ba
- haka kuma ba kowace budurwa ce marar hankali ba
👉 Mutunci, tarbiyya, imani, da fahimta sune ginshikin aure, ba shekaru kadai ba.
KAMMALAWA
Auren bazawara ko wacce ta girmeka:
- na iya zama aure mai albarka
- na iya kawo kwanciyar hankali
- na iya zama hanyar taimakon al’umma
Amma:
Nasara a aure tana fitowa ne daga fahimtar juna, ba shekarun juna ba.
Allah Ya azurta maza da mata na gari.
Allah Ya sa duk auren da aka yi ya zama na rahama, fahimta da natsuwa.
Amin.
Idan kana so:
- in sauya shi ya zama rubutun wa’azi
- ko article na ilimin zamantakewa
- ko amsa ga masu sukar auren bazawara
ka fada min, zan gyara shi yadda ya dace.
