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WASU ABUBUWA 10 DA BAI DACE MATAN AURE SUKE YI BA |
(Domin zaman lafiya, mutunci da dorewar aure)
1. Fifita ’Yan Uwa da Kawayenki Akan Miji
Lokacin da mace:
- ta fi bai wa kawayenta muhimmanci
- ta raina kiran miji a gabansu
- ta bar miji yana magana tana hira da wasu
Hakan:
- yana karya mutuncin miji
- yana jawo raini daga waje
- yana rage darajar aure a idon mutane
Miji shi ne abokin rayuwa na dindindin, ba kawaye ba.
2. Rashin Yiwa Miji Fara’a da Kyakkyawar Fuska
Aure ba abinci da sutura kadai ba ne.
Miji yana bukatar:
- murmushi
- magana mai dadi
- raha da barkwanci
Matar da kullum:
- fuskarta a murtuke
- magana cike da tsawa ko raini
Tana kashe:
- sha’awa
- kusanci
- soyayya a hankali
3. Kin Yarda da Miji a Bangaren Jima’i
Daurawa jima’i sharudda kamar:
- sai kudi
- sai wani abu
- sai lokacin da ita kadai ta so
Wannan:
- ba dabi’ar matar kwarai ba ce
- yana iya jefa namiji cikin zina
- ko tilasta masa kara aure
Jima’i hakki ne na bangarori biyu, ba makami ba.
4. Yin Manyan Abubuwa Ba Tare da Shawara ko Izinin Miji Ba
Kamar:
- saka jari mai tsoka
- siyan gida ko mota
- boye dukiya ko kasuwanci
Wannan:
- yana karya shugabancin gida
- yana haifar da rikici idan matsala ta taso
- yana nuna rashin girmamawa
Aure hadin gwiwa ne, ba fafatawa ba.
5. Daurawa Miji Abin da Ya Fi Karfinsa
Mace da:
- ta nace dole sai kaza
- ko da ta san mijinta ba shi da hali
Hakan na iya:
- sa miji ya shiga bashi
- ya saci kudin aiki
- ko ya kaskantar da kansa
Hakuri da fahimta su ne ginshikin arziki.
6. Fitar da Matsalar Aure Waje
Wasu mata:
- suna sanar da kawayensu komai
- suna zubar da sirrin gida
- suna tozarta miji a waje
Sirrin aure:
- idan ya fita waje, daraja tana fita
- shawarwarin waje kan kara rikici
Aure na bukatar hikima, ba yayatawa ba.
7. Rainin Miji saboda Talauci ko Matsala
Mace da:
- ke raina miji idan ya fadi
- ke kwatanta shi da wasu maza
Tana mantawa:
- rayuwa tana canzawa
- namiji yana bukatar goyon baya a wahala
Matar kirki ana ganinta lokacin matsala, ba lokacin arziki kadai ba.
8. Kawo Mutum Tsakanin Aure
Ko:
- uwa
- ’yar uwa
- kawaye
Da zarar aka bari suna yanke hukunci:
- aure yana lalacewa
- soyayya tana sanyi
- rigima tana yawa
Shawara ana iya nema, amma hukunci na ma’aurata ne.
9. Rashin Kula da Kanki Saboda Kin Yi Aure
Wasu mata sukan ce:
“Ai na yi aure, wa zan burge?”
Wannan kuskure ne.
Kula da:
Yana:
- kara soyayya
- rage sha’awar waje
- karfafa kusanci
10. Girman Kai da Kin Sauka
Mace da:
- bata yarda tana kuskure ba
- bata iya cewa “na yi kuskure”
Irin wannan hali:
- yana gina katanga
- yana kashe fahimtar juna
- yana lalata aure a hankali
Sauka ba rauni ba ne, hikima ce.
KAMMALAWA
Ba wadannan abubuwa duka bane suke cikin kowace mata, kuma maza ma suna da nasu kura-kurai.
Amma:
Auren da ake son ya dore, dole bangarori biyu su gyara kansu.
Allah Ya gyara zukatan ma’aurata.
Allah Ya sanya aurenmu rahama ne ba wahala ba.
Amin.
