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| Dalilin da yasa mace bata jin daɗi a kwanciyar aure |
Dalilin da yasa mace bata jin daɗi a kwanciyar aure: cikakken bayani kan dalilai na jiki, tunani, da sadarwa tare da hanyoyin magance su.
Mata da dama suna fuskantar rashin jin daɗi a kwanciyar aure, amma sau da yawa ba a tattauna batun cikin buɗaɗɗiyar fahimta ba. Fahimtar dalilin da yasa mace bata jin daɗi a kwanciyar aure yana buƙatar dubi mai zurfi kan abubuwan jiki, tunani, sadarwa, da yanayin rayuwa. Wannan rubutu na ilimi zai taimaka wajen fayyace dalilai na gaskiya tare da hanyoyin magance su cikin mutunci da lafiya.
Manufar bincike
Wannan rubutu na ilimi (informational) ne, an tsara shi domin wayar da kai da taimaka wa ma’aurata su fahimci matsalar cikin hujjoji na kimiyya da shawarwarin ƙwararru.
Fahimtar jin daɗi a kwanciyar aure
Jin daɗin mace a kwanciyar aure ba abu guda ɗaya ba ne. Yana haɗuwa ne da:
- Yanayin hormone
- Lafiyar jiki
- Natsuwar tunani
- Sadarwa da abokin zama
- Yanayin muhalli da lokaci
Idan ɗaya daga cikin waɗannan ya samu matsala, jin daɗi na iya raguwa.
Dalilan jiki da lafiya
Wasu dalilai na zahiri suna taka muhimmiyar rawa.
1. Canjin hormone
Canjin hormone (kamar bayan haihuwa, shayarwa, ko lokacin menopause) na iya rage danshi da jin daɗi. Mayo Clinic ta bayyana cewa hormone estrogen yana da rawar gaske wajen jin daɗin mace (https://www.mayoclinic.org).
2. Bushewar farji
Bushewa na iya jawo zafi ko rashin jin daɗi. Wannan na faruwa sakamakon:
- Canjin hormone
- Wasu magunguna
- Rashin shiri kafin kusanci
3. Matsalolin lafiya
Wasu cututtuka kamar:
- Ciwon farji
- Ciwon mahaifa
- Ciwon fitsari na iya shafar jin daɗi. NHS na nuna muhimmancin ganin likita idan matsalar ta daɗe (https://www.nhs.uk).
Dalilan tunani da motsin rai
Tunani da ji suna da tasiri sosai.
Tsoro da damuwa
Damuwa, gajiya, ko tsoron yin kusanci na iya hana mace shakatawa. Idan kwakwalwa ba ta huta ba, jiki ma ba zai amsa yadda ya dace ba.
Rashin amincewa da kai
Wasu mata na jin kunya ko rashin gamsuwa da jikinsu, wanda hakan ke rage jin daɗi.
Tunanin baya (trauma)
Idan mace ta taɓa fuskantar mummunar ƙwarewa a baya, hakan na iya shafar jin daɗinta har yanzu. A irin wannan yanayi, shawarar ƙwararren masani tana da muhimmanci.
Rashin sadarwa tsakanin ma’aurata
Ɗaya daga cikin manyan dalilin da yasa mace bata jin daɗi a kwanciyar aure shi ne rashin tattaunawa mai kyau.
- Ba a faɗa abin da ake so ba
- Ana jin tsoron a yi kuskure
- Rashin sauraron juna
WHO ta jaddada cewa sadarwa da yarda su ne ginshiƙan lafiyar aure (https://www.who.int).
Rashin shiri kafin kusanci
Shiri yana taimaka wa jiki da tunani su shiga yanayin da ya dace.
Abubuwan da ke nuna rashin shiri
- Gaggawa
- Rashin yanayi mai natsuwa
- Rashin kulawa da jin abokin zama
Wannan na iya sa mace ta ji kamar ba a damu da jin daɗinta ba.
Tasirin gajiya da salon rayuwa
Salon rayuwa na zamani na kawo gajiya mai tsanani.
- Rashin isasshen bacci
- Nauyin aiki
- Damuwa ta kuɗi ko iyali
Duk waɗannan na rage kuzari da sha’awa.
Matsalolin fahimtar juna
Wasu ma’aurata suna da ra’ayi daban-daban game da kusanci.
- Bambancin sha’awa
- Lokaci da yanayin da ba su dace ba
- Rashin girmama iyaka
Wannan na iya jawo rashin jin daɗi ga mace.
Hanyoyin da za a bi domin magance matsalar
Akwai hanyoyi masu amfani da za su taimaka.
1. Buɗaɗɗiyar sadarwa
- Tattauna abin da ke damuwa cikin ladabi
- Faɗa abin da ke kawo jin daɗi
- Sauraron juna ba tare da hukunci ba
2. Kulawa da lafiya
- Ganin likita idan akwai zafi ko rashin jin daɗi
- Tambayar shawara kan hormone ko magunguna
3. Rage damuwa
- Samun bacci mai kyau
- Ayyukan motsa jiki masu sauƙi
- Lokacin hutu tare
4. Ilimi da shawarar ƙwararru
Planned Parenthood na da bayanai masu inganci kan jin daɗin mata da sadarwa a aure (https://www.plannedparenthood.org).
Abubuwan da ya dace a guje wa su
- Matsin lamba ko tilas
- Kwatantawa da wasu
- Yin watsi da koke-koken mace
Waɗannan na ƙara tsananta matsala maimakon magance ta.
Muhimmancin girmama yarda
Yarda da jin abokin zama abu ne mai matuƙar muhimmanci. Idan mace ba ta ji daɗi ba, dakatawa da tattaunawa su ne mafita.
Ƙarin karatu a shafinmu
Kira zuwa aiki
Idan kana son ƙarin rubuce-rubucen ilimi kan aure, lafiya, da fahimtar juna, bi shafinmu ko yi rajista domin samun sabbin bayanai masu inganci.
Kammalawa
Akwai dalilai masu yawa da ke bayan dalilin da yasa mace bata jin daɗi a kwanciyar aure, tun daga jiki zuwa tunani da sadarwa. Fahimta, haƙuri, da girmama juna su ne mabuɗan magance matsalar. Idan ma’aurata suka ɗauki lokaci su tattauna da kula da lafiyar juna, jin daɗi da soyayya za su ƙaru.
